Women supporting the family instead of man?

Opinion of men and women would be great. How do you feel about the woman in the marriage supporting the family financially instead of the man? I am finding myself slightly resentful of my partner and his unwillingness to work and support us and our son. We are not married but are living together and have a 2 year old boy. Last year my man was made redundant from his job, I was working part time so increased my hours to full time to help get us through until he found work. Since then I have taken the jump into self employment and am working 10+ hours every day to get my business up and running, while looking after my son at the same time. I am also learning to drive and having multiple lessons per week so I can pass my test asap, there's a lot of pressure for me to do that. He has long since given up trying to find work and seems quite happy to allow me to work myself to the ground to support the 3 of us. I am getting so resentful of his attitude. Especially because he is useless with finances and is getting himself into debt which means I have to pay it to stop courts taking action against him which might result in us losing our house. I will do whatever I have to to make sure my son is given everything he needs but I don't know how much longer I can carry on without exploding. This was only ever meant to be a short term solution, how can he be ok watching me exhaust myself. I don't want to be a nag but I am crumbling. Any advice would be really good :) I look after our son while I work aswell, it is one of the reasons I chose the job I am doing now. Because if it was left to him they would never leave the house and my son would be in his pjamas all day everyday waiting for me to get home. That was what happened when I was not able to take my son to work, I would come home and they would have not seen sunlight all day long :( I do not want to swap roles with him. I am very proud of what I have achieved, I have come from nothing, I have a beautiful son, my own home and business, I am only 22. I just want him to help me or at the very least, I want him to WANT to help me.

Everyone needs to pull their weight. I don't think there is anything wrong with the female making more than the male (happens in a lot of relationships) but it IS wrong that he isn't even looking for employment anymore. If my boyfriend/husband/partner became unemployed I would feel badly for them because yes, these are hard times, and I would definitely pick up the slack in terms of my own employment BUT I would expect them to be looking for employment and also taking care of the household, child care, etc. If he isn't working, he needs to carry most of the burden of the home stuff.

If you are the only one working AND taking care of your child/household chores, then yes, he is lazy. He needs to take over the childcare and household duties or get a job.

Tell him exactly how you feel if this doesn't get him to begin changing his behaviors kick his butt out! If he isn't contributing anything to finances, the upkeep of the home or the care of your child and he is continuing to rack up more debt with you paying it......what is the use of him in your life???

When i was with my husband i was always the bread winner, he never did anything, although he was looking after the kids i would come home to a complete mess, no dinner, and the kids would be filthy!! I know its hard with little children, but honestly it was beyond a joke. I understand your frustration, i got to the point where i felt as though i would be better off as a single parent, and i am, as are the kids! You need to sit him down and explain exactly what you just wrote down here. Tell him that you expect him to get a job, anything would be better than nothing. Perhaps he thinks its ok to sit back and let you keep him, explain that it's not. Tell him how you feel. If you are ignored then at least youve tried your best. good luck x

Listen dear , Feminism has created quotas that require businesses to hire women , additionally feminism creates a climate in which if a woman is fired she sues for sexual discrimination. Under these circumstances men are the first to be fired and the last to be hired. Add to that 0bama sabotaging not only the U.S. economy but yours and much of Europe's and there are like 50 male applicants for any opening and the employer has to give it to the woman anyway. The very issue of your being the breadwinner is exactly what men have done for thosands of years and the right your feminist sisters fought so hard for . Enjoy and embrace your " Victory ."

I worked two jobs when this happened to us Like you i did it to pay the mortgage and put food on the table But i could,nt have done this if he had,nt been there to have the children I even found i enjoyed doing this rather than staying home ? Would you be able to do all this if he worked ?

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